Where are the Virtuous Men?
It seems that I am never going to write that commentary about the different kinds of men I’ve encountered in my lifetime. Other topics seem to demand the hot seat more. The same is true this time around.
*sighing*
In order not to interfere with my writing flow, I’ve decided to just go with the current flow instead. Pun intended. lol.
Anyhoo, this month’s commentary is about an often overlooked inequality in society (sadly, in religious society as well) that recently piqued my interest. That inequality involves the lack of virtuous men.
Almost any church in America preaches at some time or the other about the Proverbs 31 woman – the Virtuous Woman. Knowing that, I can’t help but wonder how many preach/teach about the need for men to be just as virtuous.
Let’s go even deeper…
How many men, that may be hearing such teachings in their church homes, even want to be virtuous? And why is it so acceptable worldwide for men to be rakes, highly promiscuous, and inherently weak in the flesh?
Am I advocating that women start lowering their morals and standards?
No.
I am advocating that men rise to the occasion and raise theirs.
Where are the men that don’t mind holding a steady job, ANY job (legitimate, of course), don’t mind paying bills, and knows (or is at least willing to learn) how to treat a woman well?
Where are the men that choose not to sleep around before and during a serious relationship because he wants to save all of himself for that one special lady? The kind of man that is not trying to put notches on his belt, signifying all the women he’s ever slept with.
Where are the Boazs in this world? The kind of man who respects a woman to the point that he will do everything in his power to not only protect her reputation, but actually make a serious commitment to her. The kind of man who’s not afraid of commitment and all that that entails.
Where are those men? If you know any, tell ‘em that I know scores of virtuous single females that are just waiting to meet them.
If you’re one of those men, I applaud you. I also encourage you to start some kind of mentoring program – help other men be just as virtuous.
If you’re not one of those men, what’s your excuse for setting your morals and standards so low? You don’t have to tell me, of course, but at least answer that question for yourself. Then go a step farther and raise your morals and standards. In short, finally become all you were meant to be on this earth.
© 2009 by Suprina Frazier
Great article Suprina. I haven’t seen any (virtuous men) in years…lol…A virtuous women deserve a virtuous man also even though I’ve never heard it preached about in church. I think maybe some men who probably are virtuous are scared to admit it because of today sterotype about the kind of men that women want and yes it includes women in the church also. The godly men are looking for the pure and wholesome woman but the women maybe looking for that born again thug, pimp, player, etc…. I believe that we as women of God need to look for a man with the qualification of being godly and not looking at trying to satisfy our flesh and spirit because they will WAR everyday with each other. When you find some men who are willing to admit they are will there be a place for virtuous woman & virtuous man to chat?
Subrina: That is so sad that you haven’t seen any virtuous men in years. I imagine a lot of single women have the same testimony. I wonder if many pastors/ministers have even researched that topic out. I know one has. Here’s the link to read his article:
http://www.bible.org/page.php?page_id=642
As for starting a chat for virtuous men and women to meet, I’m willing to start some type of yahoo group for such a thing if more people become interested. Any suggestions on how it should be run? (email me off-list, Subrina, about this).
Anyhoo, thanks for commenting on this blog.
Suprina
P.S. That article I referred you to gives women biblical examples of what kind of we should be looking for in a man. Even married folks like me can still apply those things in order to make our unions even better.